When I met my husband everyone used to say that we were complete opposites, that they didn’t understand the connection. He is a loud, outgoing extrovert. I’m a quiet introvert.
I used to always use the old saying as my rationale and insist that, “Opposites attract.”
But since then, I’ve learned there was something underlying that drew us together in the first place, that forged the connection that we’ve maintained over decades. It’s a shared sense of humor.
Various studies have shown that…
- Women are attracted to men who make them laugh
- Inside jokes between couples helps to create a bond, establishes security, and helps relationships last longer
- Funny people are thought to be more social and more intelligent
Humor in Your Story Benefits Your Readers
Besides the fun you’ll have writing the story between your heroine and hero, you’ll be helping out your readers, too. That’s because laughter is more than just good for the soul, laughter is good for you, it can…
- Lower blood pressure
- Release endorphins
- Produce a general sense of well being
- Reduce stress hormone levels
Hooking Up Your Hero and Heroine
So, the next time you’re looking for that connection between your hero and heroine, perhaps you can look a little further than skin deep. The color of your heroine’s hair might change through the years, and perhaps those massive muscles of your hero start to decline as their love grows and he has less time to devote to the gym. A shared sense of humor is timeless, and doesn’t fade over the years. It only nurtures the savored, favorite inside jokes and deepens the bond.
Wanna Tickle Your Funny Bone?
I love writing humor into my stories. GrandmaMust Die was great fun to create.
Carman has worn out more towns and last names than impractical shoes protecting the secret of her magic blood.
But when a friend goes missing, and another is infected with a deadly spell, Carman must choose.
Expose her magic blood by curing the spell—or stop the infection from spreading by killing the source…the grandmother.
Is a Sense of Humor High on Your Checklist of Essential Qualities in a Hero in Fiction and/or Reality?
Maureen Bonatch dreamt of becoming a Solid Gold Dancer. When the show ended, she followed other paths. Surviving motherhood to twins (so far) gave her the confidence to learn belly dancing, declare herself a tequila connoisseur and act as biker babe with her alpha hubby. Maureen grew up in small town Pennsylvania and her love of the four seasons—biking, sweat pants, hockey and hibernation—kept her there. While immersed in writing or reading paranormal romance and fantasy, she survives on caffeine, wine, music and laughter. A feisty Shih Tzu keeps her in line.