Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Make a Connection with Your Hero & Heroine with Humor

by Maureen L. Bonatch 

“Laugher is the shortest distance between two people.”- Victor Borge

When I met my husband everyone used to say that we were complete opposites, that they didn’t understand the connection. He is a loud, outgoing extrovert. I’m a quiet introvert. 
I used to always use the old saying as my rationale and insist that, “Opposites attract.” 
But since then, I’ve learned there was something underlying that drew us together in the first place, that forged the connection that we’ve maintained over decades. It’s a shared sense of humor. 

Various studies have shown that 
  • Women are attracted to men who make them laugh
  • Inside jokes between couples helps to create a bond, establishes security, and helps relationships last longer
  • Funny people are thought to be more social and more intelligent

Humor in Your Story Benefits Your Readers

Besides the fun you’ll have writing the story between your heroine and hero, you’ll be helping out your readers, too. That’s because laughter is more than just good for the soul, laughter is good for you, it can…
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Release endorphins
  • Produce a general sense of well being
  • Reduce stress hormone levels 

Hooking Up Your Hero and Heroine

So, the next time you’re looking for that connection between your hero and heroine, perhaps you can look a little further than skin deep. The color of your heroine’s hair might change through the years, and perhaps those massive muscles of your hero start to decline as their love grows and he has less time to devote to the gym. A shared sense of humor is timeless, and doesn’t fade over the years. It only nurtures the savored, favorite inside jokes and deepens the bond.

Wanna Tickle Your Funny Bone?

I love writing humor into my stories. GrandmaMust Die was great fun to create.

Carman has worn out more towns and last names than impractical shoes protecting the secret of her magic blood. 
But when a friend goes missing, and another is infected with a deadly spell, Carman must choose. 
Expose her magic blood by curing the spell—or stop the infection from spreading by killing the source…the grandmother.

Is a Sense of Humor High on Your Checklist of Essential Qualities in a Hero in Fiction and/or Reality?


About Me:
Maureen Bonatch dreamt of becoming a Solid Gold Dancer. When the show ended, she followed other paths. Surviving motherhood to twins (so far) gave her the confidence to learn belly dancing, declare herself a tequila connoisseur and act as biker babe with her alpha hubby. Maureen grew up in small town Pennsylvania and her love of the four seasons—biking, sweat pants, hockey and hibernation—kept her there. While immersed in writing or reading paranormal romance and fantasy, she survives on caffeine, wine, music and laughter. A feisty Shih Tzu keeps her in line.

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7 comments:

Francesca Quarto said...


I totally think that using humor is a great bridge between difficult/opposite characters in life and in books. I like having the uplift that laughter gives us and smiling while reading a book (or your blog) just makes the experience even nicer.
Thanks much!

Francesca Q.

Diane Burton said...

Before I met my husband, I was so serious. (Still am, but trying not to be.) He made me laugh. Through him, I found a sense of humor that had been dormant. During high stress time, he can ease the situation with gentle humor. I can easily write a humorous heroine. Harder is writing an intense, serious one with the class clown as the hero. One of his goals was to help her find her sense of humor. That story (Switched, Too) is one of my favorites because it was so hard to write.

Diane Burton said...

Forgot to say--I loved Grandma Must Die. Perfect amount of humor.

Maureen said...

Thank you ladies. It's so nice when we can find someone who shares our sense of humor. It's like you know right away you're going to get along just fine no matter what other difference you might have. Diane- thank you so much for the compliment for Grandma Must Die.

CJ Burright said...

I definitely rate a man being able to make me laugh as a huge attraction. You and your hubby sound exactly like me and mine--he's a social butterfly and I'm the introvert, and we both make each other laugh. It's great to have someone to be silly with, who "gets" your sense of humor. And I love characters who make each other laugh too. Great post, Maureen!

Victoria Craven said...

I love to write humor in my characters. You're right it does make a stronger connection.

Elizabeth Alsobrooks said...

A solid gold dancer, Maureen? Oh, you must have been crushed! How about Dancing With the Stars? Keep on dancing to your own tune!