Hi everyone!
I know I haven’t been around
last month and this month’s post is late as well. I apologize but life has decided to give me a few bumps...
Life has changed drastically
for me and I am now just coming to grips to what’s transpired. Now, first, I
need to explain that this isn’t a call for sympathy or anything like that but
rather how to deal with those life bumps we all get. Second, things happen
totally outside our control, a lot, and as writers we need to know how we’re
going to overcome these challenges.
In the beginning of January,
my husband of 31 years had a routine colonoscopy. He’d been having some gastric
issues since he’d been diagnosed with giardia over two years ago but we just
put it down to errant gut flora. Low and behold, we got a major wake up call
when the doctor told us flat out he had colon cancer.
After a very stunned few
days, I knew we had to get a handle on this. We saw doctors, we went to tests
and did various other things to insure he received the best care possible. The
worst news we received was that it was Stage IV, while the best news was it’s
100% curable with time, chemo and surgery.
I breathed a sigh of relief
and immediately went back to writing and formatting a book for the print
version of an anthology I was in that was set to release on February 28. Some
friends of ours couldn’t believe that I wasn’t more worried and could still
think about doing ‘my job’ because I’m a full time writer. Why wasn’t I
catering to my dear husband’s every need? My thought was…how do you know I’m
not?
For me, life is one of the
things that happen no matter what your job is. It’s how you approach each and
every life bump that shapes you and your career. Having been in nursing years
ago and having a father-in-law who is a retired surgeon plus one of the best medical teams available, I knew my husband would be getting the best care possible.
Now, I could do everything on someone else’s time table and not write but I’d be a
miserable person. At that point, I would probably be useless to the one who
needed me most…my husband…and that wouldn’t do.
Writing is part of the fabric
of my being. I can’t survive without it. I sometimes live, breath and eat my
stories because I’m so in tune with what I do. My husband knows this and
because of my intimate relationship to my work, we discussed my writing and the
things I had planned for this year. So far, I have three book signings and one
conference lined up. Knowing just how important these things are to me, we
decided that as long as they don’t interfere with his treatment, they are a go.
Matter of fact, by the time you actually read this, I’ve already done the conference since it was the weekend of
the 18th. We basically made it a family trip for visiting the clan in Nevada.
Sure, there are going to be
some tough times with surgery and side effects to chemo but those are things
necessary to get him well. So far, he’s had two chemo treatments and I’ve gone
with a writing tablet to do some work. One week, I did some class work for a Southwest
Studies class and the next week I worked on blurbs, loglines and what I’d be
doing for my marketing plan with the anthology I’m in. It was definitely time
needed at the hospital but unwasted on both of our parts. The DH sat there and
answered work email. I took a picture of him because both of us are happiest
when we’re doing work or learning something new.
While we wanted to zip, life
wanted us to zag. We allowed ourselves time to get used to the new dichotomy
then moved on with what we needed to do to make life happy as we moved from
point a to point b. It was a little different than planned and knocked us out
of align for about six weeks but now we’re back better than before.
And I’m writing with a little
different view on life. Please join me next month as I negotiate through life and
writing!
Lynn
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3 comments:
Lynn, Well, I am sorry for the troubles you are having and think you have handled them very well, all things considered. Hugs and prayers.
I also enjoyed reading about your newest release. Your take on the Vegas theme is very nicely done.
(((HUGS))) to you and your hubby Lynn. I admire and share your attitude about life and work goes on. My due date for revisions for Book 3 and for son 2 were on the day . . . and both were early! You can't control what life throws at you, just how you react to it, and by getting on with it in every aspect seems the far healthier choice to me. Best wishes for the treatment and the sales!!
Sorry I didn't see your post sooner, Lynn. Life does throw us curves! Like Nancy, I admire your attitude. Life goes on. We all have choices as to how to handle it. Your work will give you strength. Just as you will support your husband, he's supporting you. What a wonderful relationship. Hugs and best wishes for both you & your husband.
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